Natural Body Love
Bodywork
Savor the innate, wild wisdom of your natural body
Reclaim your sexual wholeness
Live a more free, erotically empowered, and fully expressed existence
Somatic Sexology
Intimacy Coaching
Embodiment
What is Somatic Sexology?
Sexological bodywork & somatic sexology are body-centric, trauma-informed approaches that aim to support individuals, couples or groups in developing and deepening into their erotic awareness, embodiment and wellbeing. Through guided interoceptive (internal noticing) practices, somatic inquiry, breath, sound, movement, boundary-setting and one-directional touch, we will move at the pace of trust & ongoing, enthusiastic consent to bring you back home to the body. Sessions are collaborative and client empowered and led.
The Benefits of This Approach
What I love about this work is that it approaches sexuality from a down regulated state, and in a way that truly empowers the client. It doesn’t allow for bypassing any parts of self in favor of pleasure or expansion, but rather allows the complexity of being human and our inherent, natural sensual and sexual energy to unfurl organically. And it is focused on the experience of the client, rather than the client being done to or focusing on the practioner-client relationship. This approach trusts your body’s self-organizing intelligence and believes in your ability to heal yourself with proper support, rather than needing to be fixed. I am here to guide, suggest, hold space with radical acceptance and mirror so that you can bask in the glory of your own authentic essence.
What is a session like?
- Sessions are client-centered and tailored to meet your individual needs, intentions, desires and goals. In every session we will co-create a learning objective that will guide the purpose of and activities within the session.
- Sessions may include a combination of coaching, embodiment practice and bodywork. This modality is somatically focused and trauma-informed.
- The purpose of these sessions is to educate and empower your confidence with your intimate self-expression, to feel safe enough to notice what you are feeling, to trust your inner wisdom, and to communicate authentically.
What modalities and tools may be used?
Clean Language Coaching
Body Poem
Somatic Assessment
Breathwork
Boundaries & Consent Practice
Wheel of Consent Exercises
Elemental Embodiment
Guided Intuitive Movement
Wheel of Awareness Meditation
Tools to Up and Down Regulate the Nervous System
Nature Connection Ritual
Mirror Work
Self-Pleasure Coaching
Active Receiving Massage
Genital Mapping
Anal Mapping
Genital Massage
Anal Massage
Scar Tissue Remediation
Orgasmic Yoga
The Power of These Tools
Clean Language Coaching
An evidence-based counseling technique that strives to strip facilitator inquiry of assumptions, metaphors and judgements, in order to free the client from unwanted advice or flawed interpretation, so that the client is free to focus fully on their own experience.
Clean Language intends to focus solely on the client’s experience, ‘clean’ from practitioner bias, interpretation or judgement, by inquiring into the introceptive experience of the client and using repeating the client’s own language in order to support deeper inquiry and integration.
Body Poem is a revolutionary therapeutic tool developed by Katie Serra, which supports acceptance and understanding of our hidden drivers, honoring and trusting our inner knowing. It is a skilled synthesis of Body Focusing, Clean Language and Dream Form.
Through guided mediation, the client is invited to notice and express their inner landscapes. The illuminating revelations shared form the basis of a spontaneous poem. Body Poem is designed to bring acknowledgment, radical acceptance, and integration to parts of self that have been exiled, repressed, or dismissed.
Learn More About Body Poem Here
The Wheel of Consent, created by Dr. Betty Martin, is a model of relating that explores and examines the nature of touch and provides a framework for clear, direct communication of consent.
Learning and practicing the Wheel provides opportunities to rewire old patterns around giving and receiving, develop an empowered sense of what you are truly willing and wanting to do with a full heart in relational interactions, and embody clear expression of your desires and boundaries. Utilizing the Wheel supports navigating more nourishing and authentic connections with ease.
It is a fundamental tool for relating in healthy, honest and uplifting ways.
Learn More about Wheel of Consent Here
Mindful Self-Pleasure
“Change the way you masturbate, change your life” -Dr. Joseph Kramer
Self-Pleasure Coaching and Orgasmic Yoga are two modalities used to bring intention and attention to mindful erotic practice. Erotic practice allows us to know and value ourselves and brings innumerable benefits for the brain and body. It is an effective way to support breaking free of limiting and unperceived habits and go deep into embodied experience.
Self-pleasure coaching involves support with developing and transforming your relationship with pleasure and with your own body.
It can support you with developing a more conscious, empowering relationship with your self and your sexual energy and cultivating the power of your erotic energy to create your life.
Mapping
We map geographical landscapes to understand and navigate them, but sometimes we forget to give this level of presence and care to the landscapes of our very own bodies.
Mapping is the practice of bringing presence to a specific area, in order to understand and illuminate the landscapes within that part of the body.
This practice can be incredibly healing, especially with areas such as the genitals and anus, that are so tender and given so little time in the spotlight but often holding some of our most powerful emotions and experiences.
The physical practice of mapping involves bringing presence and possibly touch to these regions with loving awareness to support strengthening your connection with and understanding of your body, just as it is in this present moment, different than it ever was before or ever will be again, but holding a sacred essence of your being.
Anal Exploration
“Freud said that the royal road to the unconscious was the dream, I would suggest that a faster route is through the anal sphincters. Since they are made of both skeletal muscles under conscious control we can work with the ... unconscious through working with the anatomic nervous system. Where else in the body do we have... direct access to smooth muscle in way that allows someone to down-regulate and relax?” -Dr. Ellen Heed
Did you know that the only smooth muscle in the body that is exposed to touch is the inside of the throat, the inside of the vagina and the tissue in the sphincters of the anus? Working with the anus can provide access to the subconscious in ways that is not otherwise available. It can also be extremely down-regulating, pleasurable and healing. Sensitive, intentional and consensual touch on and inside of the sphincters can unwind unconscious tension throughout the large intestine, reconnect us with our root and feelings of stability and safety, release stories of shame or pain often associated with this part of the body, and support with developing a healthy and empowering relationship with our anus.
There are many modalities and tools to support conscious anal exploration such as Anal Story, Anal Mapping and Anal Massage.
What and Who Is This For?
Developing Confidence
Unwinding Shame
Consent and Boundaries
Improving Sex Life
Relationship With Orgasms
Recovering from Relational or Sexual Trauma
Improving Ability to Give and Receive Pleasure
Recovering Sexual Functioning and Pleasure After Childbirth, Life Transitions Or Surgery
Accepting and Loving One’s Body, Gender and Sexuality
Understanding Anal Pleasure
Scar Tissue Remediation
Embodiment and Expanding Somatic Versatility
Space to Feel and Process Emotions and Experiences
Developing a Spiritual/Sexual Connection
Healing Ancestral and Social Sexual Wounding
Reconnection to Womb After Abortion/Miscarriage/Pregnancy
Navigating Status Changes with Sexually Transmitted Infections
Knowing and Asking for What You Want
Feelings of Disembodiment, Numbness or Disassociation
Desire to Experiment, Explore, Play or Try Something New Without Holding the Experience of Another
Decline in Sexual Desire or Mismatched Desire with a Partner
Finding and Using Your Voice
Arousal Fluency, Erotic Fluency
Developing or Changing Self-Pleasure Habits
Using Erotic Energy to Heal/Transform
Support with Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity, and/or Sexual Identity
Navigating Changes in Relationship Status
Exploring Sensation Before, During or After Gender Transition
SexualityAfter Hormonal Changes (life changes, menopause, going on/off the pill)
Sexual Education, Support, and Counseling
SexualityAfter Cancer
Compulsions, Fetishes, Addictions or Unwanted Habits
About Lilikoi
I have always been fascinated both by the experience of being in a body and the development of the mind, and frustrated with how the modern world seems to place these aspects of self at odds with one another.
I went into education and counseling to participate in alternative, neurodiverse and holistic ways to support youth from diverse backgrounds with their mind/body/spirit development. I earned a Master’s Degree in Human Development and Psychology from UCLA, but continued to feel constrained by the lack of incorporating the body and spirit.
In my search for embodied spiritual nutrition I began to study elemental embodiment with Meghan Makena, creator of the Amba Method. After completing the teacher training I supported circles, workshops, retreats and trainings for women with Amba. This grew into a deeper spiral of study and practice within the field of nature-based embodiment, sacred sexuality, and womb work, which blossomed into into a collaborative business of women’s retreats and coaching with a few dear sisters.
Creating my life from the wisdom of my body and the energetic force of my orgasm led my to PachaMama Transformational Center and Ecovillage in Guantacaste, Costa Rica. I lived and worked in the village for three years, supporting various workshops and ceremonies, holding women’s circles, embodiment circles and working with 1:1 clients with embodiment, sex magic, and yoni steaming. Here, I met my beloved and we are currently expecting our first child. We now live between PachaMama and the mountain of Chirripo.
I am currently finishing training as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Somatic Sex and Intimacy Coach, graduating in March 2024 from The Institute for Relational Harmony The intention of taking this training was to expand my toolkit, respond to client desire for touch in an ethical and trauma-informed way, and work respectfully and knowledgeably with a greater range of gender identities and configurations.
I have found this work literally life changing, profoundly empowering and truly holistic. For me, this is the medicine to integrate all parts of myself- my primal creature, my sexual energy, my downregulated nervous system, my analytical mind - in a way that feels safe and empowering, without bypassing any aspects of myself. My prayer is to support your healing and transformation ethically and consensually, for the highest good of all and for greater love and empowerment on this planet.
Natural Body Love Prayer:
May all bodies feel loved, just the way they are, in their inherent natural beauty. May we find safety within, cherish our wild wisdom and love ourselves and each other. May this love ripple out, out to the Earth, as an organic reflection of their own essence. May we take care of each other and this one sacred home.
Rates
I am currently offering sliding scale prices for accessibility.
I currently offer:
Online sessions from $75-150 for a 90 minute session.
*In person $150-300 for a 2 hour session.*
You will be able to self-select your rate when you complete your Intake Form, before our first session.
*Additional fees may apply to in-home sessions that require additional transportation time and costs.*
Longer Sessions and Personal Retreats can be arranged by request.
Additional Services:
Peristeam (Certified Peristeam Facilitator with Steamy Chick Institute)
Wand Consultation (Crystal Wands and Yoni Eggs)
Additional services can be added to your session by request
If you are able to offer beyond these rates, proceeds will go to sessions by donations for those with less financial accessibility.
Tico/Tica rates are available. If this applies to you, please let me know.
Additional Services
Crystal Wand and Yoni Egg Consultation
Crystal wands and yoni eggs are powerful tools from the earth to support you in developing your relationship to your genitals and anus.
They can be powerful allies in sacred sexuality and sex magic practice.
Each crystal and shape has different properties and intentions. In a consultation session, I support you in developing your intentions, choosing your wand(s) and/or eggs, and developing rituals.
I have products for sale in person or can support you in choosing the best product for you online from reputable sources with potential affiliation links for discounts.
Peristeaming
Peristeaming (steaming of the yoni or genitals) is an ancient healing practice cultivated in many cultures around the world.
The elemental qualities involved in steaming, as well as the specifically cultivated herbal blends can have profound impacts.
Potential benefits include regulating moon cycle and relieving cramps and pain, strengthening and toning uterus, improving circulation and odors, aiding hormonal balance and circulation, preventing infections, supporting recovery after childbirth, relieving menopausal symptoms, improving fertility, and reducing fibroids.
Spiritually it is also a beautiful practice to connect with your genitals and release energy that may be stagnant.
In a steaming session we will go over when and when not to steam, create a customized herbal blend based off of your needs, and hold a steaming session that you can replicate at home.
To Book:
- Fill out your intake form today! I will respond with available times for a session.
OR
2. Book a free 15 minute Discovery Call to decide if working together is within our mutual alignment and in service to you.
Natural Body Love
* For The Love of Your Natural Body *
Email: Lilikoi.NaturalBodyLove@gmail.com
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